How to Talk to Girls on the Train
#1 More Conversation Starters
"You look like you're heading somewhere [exciting/interesting] with that [bag/outfit]. Any fun plans?"
A slightly flirty observation about her appearance and presumed destination, inviting her to share her plans.
"Is that [a specific language] you're speaking/listening to? It sounds [beautiful/interesting]."
A guess or observation about her cultural background, showing curiosity and potentially leading to a discussion about languages or travel.
"You seem like you're having a really [productive/relaxing] journey. What's your secret?"
An observation about her state, inviting her to share her approach to train travel.
"Sorry to bother you, but do you know if this train stops at [station name]? I'm always a bit lost on new routes."
A practical question that gives her an opportunity to be helpful, followed by a lighthearted self-deprecating comment that humanizes you.
"Are you heading to [a specific event/landmark] in [the destination city]?"
A direct guess about her plans that might be accurate if she's dressed for a particular occasion or the train is known for a specific destination.
"You have a really nice [smile/laugh]. It's contagious!"
A direct and flirty compliment, but delivered in a lighthearted way. High risk, but can be very effective if she responds positively.
"Sorry, but do you know how much longer until we reach [destination]? My phone just died."
A common predicament that creates a need for her assistance, potentially leading to further conversation.
"I'm trying to decide what to [eat/drink] from the trolley. Any recommendations?"
A simple question about a shared immediate decision that can lead to a longer chat.
"Mind if I grab that [window/aisle] seat? Looks like the best view. First time on this route, it's quite scenic."
A polite request followed by a statement about your experience that can lead to her sharing hers.
"This reminds me of a train journey I took in [country/city]. Have you done much train travel?"
Sharing a personal anecdote to invite a discussion about travel experiences.
"I love train travel, it's so much more relaxing than [driving/flying]. Do you agree?"
A statement of preference that invites agreement and a discussion about travel.
"Is that [a specific city/landmark] we're passing? It's really beautiful."
A comment about the scenery that implies a shared appreciation for the journey.
"Excuse me, I couldn't help but notice you're working on [something on her laptop/tablet]. Is that for [work/a project]?"
A polite inquiry about her activity. Shows interest without being intrusive, and can lead to a conversation about her profession or hobbies.
"This journey would be perfect with a [cup of tea/good snack]. Are you a fan of train treats?"
A comment about a desired comfort, inviting a discussion about shared preferences.
"That's a [great book/interesting podcast you're listening to/cool design on your laptop]. Anything you'd recommend?"
A genuine compliment about something she's engaging with. Shows you're observant and opens the door for a shared interest discussion.
"This train journey always makes me want to [read a book/listen to music]. What do you usually do to pass the time?"
Sharing a personal preference and inviting her to do the same, revealing commonalities.
"Do you know if there's a good coffee shop near [the next station/our destination]? I'm always on the hunt for a decent latte."
A practical question that can lead to recommendations and a shared interest in coffee.
"Seems like everyone's glued to their phones these days, including me. What's your go-to [app/podcast] for a long journey?"
A relatable observation that invites a personal sharing of interests.
"That's a really [nice scarf/cool jacket]. Where did you get it?"
A direct compliment on her style. Keeps it light and can lead to a discussion about fashion or shopping.
"Wow, this train is really [crowded/empty] today, isn't it?"
A comment about a shared experience in the environment. Low risk and invites a simple agreement or elaboration.
"Excuse me, is this [seat/carriage] taken? Great, looks like I got lucky with a window seat. Do you usually take this train?"
A classic and polite opener. The follow-up is an open-ended question that invites conversation about routines or travel habits.
"Looks like you're pretty prepared for this journey. Any tips for a train novice like me?"
A self-deprecating comment that makes you approachable and gives her an opportunity to share her expertise.
"Excuse me, do you mind if I open/close this [window/shade]? The sun is quite [bright/cold]."
A polite request about a shared environmental factor.
"A lighthearted comment about a shared experience that invites a mutual observation."