How to Talk to Women in Public (Tool/App)

Are you looking to learn how to talk to women on the street or in public? Our innovative tool provides you with great lines to get a conversation started easily and good questions to ask her to keep the talk going successfully.

#1 Conversation Starters

Always establish Positive Eye Contact first. Then say "HI" and choose your option.

"That's an interesting [piece of jewelry/accessory]. Does it have a story behind it?"

This shows genuine curiosity and compliments her unique style without being overly direct about her looks. It invites her to share something personal, but she can choose how much.

"I love that [band/restaurant/event] t-shirt! Have you seen them live/been there often?"

This is a great way to find common interests and shows you're paying attention. It leads directly to a conversation about shared experiences or preferences.

"Excuse me, do you know if [this bus/train] goes to [destination]?"

Similar to asking for directions, this is a practical and non-threatening way to initiate contact, especially in a public transport setting.

"Wow, that's a beautiful [dog/plant/object you both observe]. Is it yours?"

If she's interacting with something interesting in the environment, comment on it. It provides an immediate common ground and an easy topic to discuss without making it about her directly, yet.

"I couldn't help but notice you're reading [book title/magazine]. Is it any good? I've been looking for something new to read."

If she's reading, this shows you're observant and interested in her intellectual pursuits. It's an easy opener to discuss a shared interest or get a recommendation.

"Hey, I'm trying to find [a specific landmark/store/street]. Do you happen to know where it is?"

A classic, low-pressure approach. You're asking for help, which can make you seem less threatening. If she helps, you can follow up with a thank you and a quick, light compliment or observation.

"Sorry to bother you, but I'm trying to settle a debate with my friend. Do you think [cats or dogs are better/coffee or tea]?"

This playful and slightly self-deprecating opener invites her into a fun, low-stakes discussion. It's an opinion-based question that encourages interaction.

"Excuse me, I know this is a bit random, but I just had to tell you, I love your [bag/coat/style]! Where did you get it?"

This is a low-risk compliment that focuses on her taste, not just her appearance. The "random" opening acknowledges the direct approach and disarms potential awkwardness. It's a genuine expression of admiration that often elicits a positive response.

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Establishing Positive Eye Contact

Overview

Approaching people and especially women on the street is tough and definitively not suited for people just starting out building their social skills. Most people in public are going somewhere or looking to get something done and not just hanging out, which means that you will fail often due to no fault of your own.

For this reason I recommend that anyone looking to be able to strike up conversations with the opposite gender in public first hone their skills in a more low-pressure environment, such as at work, at the gym, at bars or similar.

Reading nonverbal communication is key. If she is not interested in talking, does not have time or other issues to deal with, you need to know that information before trying to initiate a conversation or you will inevitably run into awkward situations.

Observe, make eye contact and see how she reacts and unless she is giving you clear signals that she is in a good mood and interested in talking, you are probably better off leaving her alone. Also all of this has to be done extremely quickly, especially if you are simply walking by someone on the street. You also need to be able to improvise and use the situation to your advantage while staying calm.

Top Tips

Here are some useful tips that may help you talk to girls in public:

• Make eye-contact with anyone you are interested in getting to know.

• Think and adapt quickly to arising or changing situations.

• Read body language and response to non-verbal communication quickly.

• Have clear rules for when to go for it and when to abort.

• Do not force any interaction. Only talk to people that do not mind it and are communicating that clearly.

• If there is something to comment on, make a comment towards them and see how they respond.

Common Problems

Here are some of the potential problems you may encounter when talking to people and especially women on the street or in public venues:

• Often people have some business to take care of or places to be, therefore have to time to chat.

• You will encounter situations where girls might signal interest in talking, but you simply will not have enough time to find a way to make it work.

• Often you will have to choose between higher likelihood of awkwardness and missing an opportunity.

• Uncomfortable and embarrassing situations are almost certain to happen sooner or later and cannot be avoided here. For example if they do not speak a language that you are fluent in.

How To Learn

While our tool can give you great lines to use and take some of the thinking out of your approach, if you really want to be great at striking up conversations with women in public, you will have to do it a lot. Over time you will learn what works and what does not, the signals that predict good or bad outcomes and much more. Sadly, you will probably have to fail a lot to get there.

Some of the skills you learn by approaching people in different places translate well, but some do not. In public and especially when walking on the street, people are generally not in a social mindset and you are going to notice that quickly.

It can be compared to learning to drive a car during a thunder storm at night. You can improve at it, but you are unlikely to ever drive as well as during a clear day and good weather. The best way to get there would probably be working your way up slowly: Start out at parties, at school or at work and work your way up to starting conversations on the train or while waiting in lone somewhere and eventually you might chance it to try on the street.

Of course some guys will simply dive in and start learning the hard skill by doing it, but this might be rough and can demoralize you quickly. It pays to look at this process as being a marathon rather than a sprint.

Pros

• You are able to meet many different people.
• You can build your social skills quickly.
• Talking in public is convenient and accessible.

Cons

• Most women will not be interested in talking here.
• It is just about the hardest place to start a decent conversation.
• Awkward moments are inevitable.
• You are a complete stranger here. They have never seen you before.
• You need to analyze, improvise, adapt and act extremely quickly.

Example

1. Observe her. Is she in a hurry, going somewhere urgently or relaxed and seems like she has time to stick around?

2. Make eye contact with a woman that you would like to chat with and smile.

3. If she smiles back, say "HI". If she does not or avoids eye contact, it is best not to force an interaction.

4. Ask an interesting question related to the situation. Being creative is important here. Ask about something you noticed about her. Consult the tool if you need good ideas.

5. Keep asking questions to keep the conversation going and track her nonverbal signals. If she ever seems disinterested, bored, stressed or passive, excuse yourself and leave. This will happen and you need to expect it.

6. If things are going really well, you might ask for contact information. This is almost necessary here, as you are unlikely to see her again. Do not be surprised if she denies. Keep in mind that she does not know you at all.

7. End the conversation at your discretion. Some may want to take the risk of overstaying their welcome to maybe keep in contact. Some may back out. Keep in mind again that approaching girls in public and asking for contact info right away is some of the hardest stuff you can choose to do.

Conclusion

Overall, talking to strangers in public and especially on the street is extremely difficult for most that are not insanely gifted. You have no prior contact that you could benefit from. Generally, this will be very first time the woman ever sees you and you have absolutely 0 trust built and you should expect outcomes that reflect this. None the less it can be a very effective way to learn how to talk to people and handle difficult and changing situations quickly. I would still recommend only trying this after you have mastered approaching in the less difficult places.