Connecting with Girls on the Train

Learn how to approach women on public trains with confidence and ease. Our tool and guide provide you with interesting things to say when starting a conversation and good questions to ask to keep it going on top of a complete guide.

"Wow, this train is really [crowded/empty] today, isn't it?"

A comment about a shared experience in the environment. Low risk and invites a simple agreement or elaboration.

"Do you know if there's a good coffee shop near [the next station/our destination]? I'm always on the hunt for a decent latte."

A practical question that can lead to recommendations and a shared interest in coffee.

"That's a [great book/interesting podcast you're listening to/cool design on your laptop]. Anything you'd recommend?"

A genuine compliment about something she's engaging with. Shows you're observant and opens the door for a shared interest discussion.

"Excuse me, is this [seat/carriage] taken? Great, looks like I got lucky with a window seat. Do you usually take this train?"

A classic and polite opener. The follow-up is an open-ended question that invites conversation about routines or travel habits.

"Excuse me, I couldn't help but notice you're working on [something on her laptop/tablet]. Is that for [work/a project]?"

A polite inquiry about her activity. Shows interest without being intrusive, and can lead to a conversation about her profession or hobbies.

"Sorry to bother you, but do you know if this train stops at [station name]? I'm always a bit lost on new routes."

A practical question that gives her an opportunity to be helpful, followed by a lighthearted self-deprecating comment that humanizes you.

"Mind if I grab that [window/aisle] seat? Looks like the best view. First time on this route, it's quite scenic."

A polite request followed by a statement about your experience that can lead to her sharing hers.

"That's a really [nice scarf/cool jacket]. Where did you get it?"

A direct compliment on her style. Keeps it light and can lead to a discussion about fashion or shopping.

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