How to Talk to Girls at Work
#1 More Conversation Starters
"Wow, that smells amazing! Are you having [coffee/tea]?"
Commenting on something pleasant she's consuming, which can lead to a quick, light conversation.
"This [new coffee machine/company announcement] is quite something, isn't it?"
Commenting on a recent change or shared experience in the workplace, inviting a common ground discussion.
"Are you looking forward to the [holiday/company event]?"
A low-risk question about an upcoming, shared event, which can lead to general conversation.
"I'm trying to figure out [this new software/system]. Have you used it before?"
Asking for help or advice on a work-related task, showing a bit of vulnerability and inviting her expertise.
"Looks like you're having a [tough/challenging] day. Is everything okay?"
A more empathetic approach, showing concern if she appears stressed, but requires sensitivity and good timing.
"Excuse me, do you know if [the manager/team lead] is in today?"
A simple, professional question that can lead to a brief exchange, especially if she knows the person you're asking about.
"You're here early/late! Are you working on [a big project/a deadline]?"
Observing her work schedule and using it as a gentle, non-intrusive way to initiate contact.
"That presentation was really [insightful/well-prepared]! You did a great job."
A genuine compliment on her work or contribution, which can be very well-received.
"Excuse me, is this [meeting room] available? (react to her being near the room)"
A simple, direct question about a shared workspace, opening the door for further conversation.
"Sorry, do you know where [the main office supply room/HR department] is? I'm still trying to find my way around."
Using the premise of being a bit lost or new to the layout, which invites her to help and opens a conversation.
"Excuse me, do you know if [IT support/maintenance] has been here yet? I'm having trouble with [my computer/the printer]."
Asking for help with a common workplace issue, which creates a natural opening for interaction.
"This [new office layout/desk arrangement] is taking some getting used to, isn't it?"
Commenting on a shared environmental change, inviting a relatable conversation.
"That's a [great mug/interesting desk plant]! Where did you find it?"
A low-risk compliment on a personal item that's visible at her workspace, showing friendly observation.
"You seem to be handling [that project/client] really well! Any tips?"
A subtle compliment on her professional capabilities, combined with a request for advice, which can be flattering.
"Wow, you're really good at [that spreadsheet/coding]! I could use some pointers."
A direct compliment on her skills, expressing admiration and a desire to learn from her.
"Hi. I'm [Your Name] from [Your Department]. I don't think we've met."
A direct and professional introduction, especially useful if you're in different departments.
"I love your [bag/scarf]! It really brightens up the office."
A direct, friendly compliment on her attire or accessories, focusing on how it enhances the work environment.
"You always seem to have the best [snacks/lunch]! What's your secret?"
A lighthearted and slightly flirty observation about something she brings in, opening a personal and friendly topic.
"Sorry, I think I overheard you talking about [a specific topic]. I'm also interested in that."
Carefully leveraging overheard information to find common interests, but be mindful of not sounding like you're eavesdropping.
"Looks like you're having a [busy/productive] day!"
A simple observation about her work activity, which can lead to a brief exchange about the workday.
"You seem to know everyone here! Have you been with the company for a while?"
A slightly flirty compliment on her apparent social connections or tenure, showing you've noticed her.
"It looks like you're a fan of [this local sports team/band] too! (react to a visible item)"
Noticing something personal she has displayed, like a sports team logo or band merchandise, to find common ground.
"I noticed you're reading [that book/article]. Is it any good?"
Observing something she's doing (like reading) and asking a question about it, showing shared interests or curiosity.
"Hey. I haven't seen you around before. Are you new to [this department/floor]?"
Using the fact that someone might be new to a specific area of the workplace to start a conversation. Low risk and polite.