How to Talk to Girls at University
#2 Conversation Options
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"You seem to know your way around [this department/building]. Are you a [graduate student/TA]?"
A polite and slightly complimentary guess about her role or familiarity with a specific area of the university. It gives her a chance to explain.
"That's a really cool [university merch/club t-shirt]. Are you part of [club name]?"
Complimenting something she's wearing that relates to the university or a club shows genuine interest and asks an easy question about her involvement.
"Excuse me, do you know if [this building/room] has [good Wi-Fi/an outlet]? My laptop's about to die."
A practical question about university resources creates a low-stakes interaction where she can easily help, and you can follow up with a thank you.
"This [campus food/cafeteria] can be hit or miss, right? What's your go-to here?"
A lighthearted comment about a shared university experience (campus food) can lead to a discussion about preferences and perhaps even trying new places.
"Do you live on campus, or are you commuting?"
A low-risk question about her living situation at the university, which can lead to discussions about dorm life, commutes, or where she's from.
"This [lecture/event] was pretty wild, huh? What was your favorite part?"
Commenting on a shared experience (a university lecture, a campus event, a performance) creates an immediate common ground and invites her to share her opinion.
"I'm trying to decide on my [next class/elective]. What's been your favorite [class/professor] so far?"
Asking for advice shows you value her opinion and opens up a conversation about academic interests and experiences at the university.
"How are you feeling about [upcoming exam/assignment deadline]? I'm a bit stressed!"
Sharing a relatable academic stress can create empathy and lead to a discussion about coursework, study strategies, or just bonding over shared challenges.
"I can't believe how busy [the student center/library] is today. Is it always like this?"
Commenting on the immediate environment creates a shared observation and invites a simple, relatable response about campus activity.
"When do you usually study here? I see you around a lot."
General small talk. Low risk. Shows you've noticed her in a non-creepy way and opens a door to discuss study habits or campus life.
"I'm thinking about joining [a specific campus club/society]. Have you heard anything about it?"
Asking for her opinion on a campus group shows you're engaged in university life and gives her a chance to share knowledge or express interest.
"Are you in [major/program]? You seem really focused in [class/the library]."
A slightly flirty compliment combined with an educated guess about her academic pursuits. It acknowledges her dedication and provides an easy topic.