Connecting with Women at University

Engaging in conversation with new people can be a rewarding yet challenging experience, especially in the vibrant atmosphere of university life. Our tool and guide provide you with interesting things to say when starting a conversation and good questions to ask to keep it going on top of a complete guide.

"Wow, that presentation was [intense/fascinating/boring], wasn't it? What did you think?"

Commenting on a shared event (a lecture, presentation, or campus talk) allows for a natural transition into a discussion about the topic.

"Hey, I think we have [Professor Smith's] class together, right? I'm [Your Name]."

Recognizing a shared class creates an instant connection and provides an easy opening for discussing coursework or the professor.

"This line for [coffee/food] is insane, isn't it? What are you getting?"

Capitalizing on a shared, slightly frustrating experience (a long line) can lead to a lighthearted complaint and then a shift to a more personal question.

"Are you in [major]? You look like someone who'd be really good at [related skill/topic]. (Make an educated guess about her major based on context like books, class, etc.)"

Making a slightly flattering guess about her major shows you're observant and creates an opportunity for her to confirm or correct you, leading to further conversation.

"Excuse me, do you know if [professor's name] is usually this [early/late/energetic]?"

Commenting on a shared experience (a professor's habits) creates an immediate common ground and invites a quick, easy response.

"Hey, is this [class/building] difficult to find? I'm new to campus and keep getting lost."

Using the fact that you might be new (or pretending to be) to ask a practical question that invites a helpful response. This is low-pressure and relatable.

"Sorry, do you mind if I borrow your [pen/charger] for a second? Mine just died. (Hold up dead pen/phone)"

A classic, low-risk way to initiate interaction by needing something small and easily provided. It opens the door for a quick thank you and potential follow-up.

"That's a cool [t-shirt/laptop sticker/book cover]. What's the story behind it?"

Complimenting something specific and unique about her belongings shows genuine interest and gives her an easy topic to elaborate on.

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