How to Talk to a Stranger
#1 More Conversation Starters
"Excuse me, I think you dropped [this/your scarf/your phone]."
A helpful act is a natural way to initiate contact. It shows attentiveness and provides a clear, positive reason for the interaction.
"This [event/place] is really [lively/relaxing], isn't it?"
Commenting on the atmosphere or shared experience acknowledges your mutual presence and can spark a conversation about the event itself or your respective reasons for being there.
"Sorry, is this [seat/table] taken?"
A simple, polite question about availability in a shared space is a straightforward and non-threatening way to initiate contact. If they respond, you can follow up with a general comment.
"I'm trying to remember the name of that [song/movie]. Does it sound familiar to you?"
If music is playing or you're in a context where movies might be discussed, asking for help with a memory can create a collaborative and friendly interaction.
"(React to something happening in the environment, e.g., a street performer, a dog doing something funny) Did you just see that?"
Reacting to a shared, unusual, or amusing external event is an excellent way to connect over a mutual experience. It creates an immediate, spontaneous bond.
"This [type of event/gathering] is always so [interesting/fun]. Have you been to one before?"
If you're at a specific type of event, commenting on its nature can spark a conversation about shared experiences or expectations.
"I'm trying to get a good picture of [this view/this landmark]. Do you happen to know the best spot?"
Asking for photography tips or the best vantage point can create a brief, collaborative interaction, especially if you're both enjoying a scenic location.
"I really like your [glasses/watch/jewelry]. It's very [unique/stylish]."
Similar to complimenting clothing, this focuses on an accessory. It's a bit more personal than a bag but still generally less direct than commenting on appearance, making it a good bridge.
"I'm new to [this area/this activity]. Do you have any [recommendations/tips]?"
Asking for advice or recommendations positions you as open and willing to learn, and many people enjoy sharing their knowledge. It creates an opportunity for them to "help" you.
"I'm trying to find [a specific item/location]. Do you happen to know where it is?"
Asking for directions or help locating something is a clear, practical reason to initiate contact. It's a common social interaction that people are generally happy to assist with.
"Excuse me, I couldn't help but notice your [accent/language]. Where are you from?"
If you notice a distinct accent or hear them speaking a different language, a polite and genuinely curious question about their origin can be a great conversation starter, provided it's asked respectfully.
"Do you know if [there's a good place for coffee/a nearby ATM] around here?"
Another practical question that provides a clear reason for the interaction and can lead to a brief but friendly exchange about local amenities.
"That's a really cool [bag]. Where did you get it?"
This is a low-risk compliment that focuses on an object rather than a personal appearance, making it less likely to be perceived as intrusive. It also invites a direct answer and potentially a follow-up question about shared interests or shopping.
"Excuse me, do you mind if I ask what you're [reading/working on]? It looks interesting."
This shows genuine curiosity and acknowledges their activity without being intrusive. It can lead to a discussion about their interests or work, giving you insight into potential commonalities.
"I can't believe how [busy/quiet] it is in here today."
Similar to commenting on the weather, this addresses a shared observation about the environment, making it a natural and low-pressure starting point for a conversation.
"This [line/wait] is [long/short] today, isn't it?"
If you're both waiting in a line, a comment about the wait time is a relatable shared experience that can easily lead to a brief chat.
"This [coffee/food item] looks amazing! Have you tried it before?"
If you're in a cafe or restaurant, commenting on something consumable is a natural way to ask for a recommendation or share an observation, leading to a friendly exchange.
"Wow, it's really [hot/cold/rainy] out there today, isn't it?"
Commenting on the weather is a classic for a reason. It's a universally relatable topic that requires little effort to respond to and can easily lead to further discussion about plans or preferences.
"Your [drawing/craft] is really impressive! Are you working on something special?"
If someone is engaged in a visible creative activity, a genuine compliment about their work can open a conversation about their hobby or passion.
"(Drop pen near them) Oh, sorry about that! Happens all the time."
This creates a low-stakes, slightly humorous interaction. The act of dropping something and a lighthearted apology can break the ice and lead to a brief, natural exchange.
"(Smile and make eye contact) Good morning/afternoon/evening!"
Sometimes, a simple, warm greeting is all it takes. It's low-pressure and gives the other person the option to respond or not, but it shows you're open to interaction.
"Excuse me, do you know if [this place] is open until [a certain time]?"
A practical question about the environment is an excellent, non-threatening opener. It establishes a common ground (being in the same place) and provides a clear reason for the interaction, making it feel natural.
"I just overheard you talking about [topic]. That's really interesting!"
This is a higher-risk option but can work if the topic is genuinely engaging and you approach them respectfully. It shows you were listening but not eavesdropping.
"I love your [book/t-shirt design]! What's it about/Where did you get it?"
Similar to complimenting an item, this focuses on something they've chosen to display, indicating a potential shared interest. It invites a specific response and opens the door for a deeper conversation.