How to Talk with People
#1 More Conversation Starters
"That [food/drink] looks amazing! What is it?"
A direct question about something they are consuming shows genuine interest and can lead to a discussion about tastes or the establishment.
"This [line/wait/situation] is quite something, isn't it?"
A lighthearted comment about a shared, potentially inconvenient experience can create a sense of camaraderie and lead to a mutual chuckle and conversation.
"I'm new to [this area/this event]. What's usually good around here?"
Admitting you're unfamiliar and asking for local insights makes you appear approachable and gives them an opportunity to be helpful.
"I'm trying to decide between [two options for a purchase/activity]. Any thoughts or recommendations?"
Asking for a quick opinion on a simple decision can draw them into a brief interaction and potentially a longer chat.
"This place has a really nice [vibe/atmosphere], don't you think?"
A general, positive observation about the environment invites agreement and can lead to a discussion about shared preferences or experiences.
"Mind if I ask what you're [reading/working on/listening to]? It looks [interesting/engaging]."
This shows curiosity and and respect for what they're doing, and if they're comfortable, it's a natural segue into a conversation about their interests.
"It's a beautiful day for [being outside/this activity], isn't it?"
A simple, positive observation about the current conditions can be a pleasant and easy way to open a dialogue.
"That's a really interesting [book/shirt/accessory]! What's it about/Where did you get it?"
Complimenting something they've chosen to wear or carry shows genuine interest in their taste and provides an easy opening for them to talk about themselves.
"Do you happen to know if there's [a specific type of store/a public restroom] nearby?"
Similar to asking for directions, this is a practical question that can be answered easily and then potentially expanded upon.
"Sorry, I just noticed your [unique item/tattoo]. Does it have a story?"
A slightly more personal but still polite approach, asking about something distinctive they possess invites them to share a bit about themselves.
"Wow, that's a great [photo/drawing/performance]! Are you [the artist/a fan]?"
Reacting genuinely to something impressive they are doing or observing shows engagement and curiosity, prompting them to explain or discuss.
"(Drop pen near them) Oh, sorry! (Pick up pen) Thanks for not tripping me."
A slightly clumsy, self-deprecating action followed by a lighthearted comment can be disarming and funny, making it easy to engage.
"Sorry to bother you, but do you know where I can find [a specific item/location]?"
A straightforward request for help is often met with willingness and can easily lead into a more general conversation if the person is open.
"I overheard you talking about [a specific topic]. That's really interesting because I'm also [interested/involved] in that."
This is a riskier approach as it involves acknowledging you were listening, but if done respectfully and with genuine shared interest, it can lead to a deep conversation.
"Excuse me, do you know if [this place] closes soon?"
This is a low-risk, practical question that most people can answer and opens the door for further conversation if they are willing. It's about a shared immediate context.
"This [weather/event/situation] is really [interesting/unusual/great], isn't it?"
Commenting on a shared, obvious external factor creates instant common ground and invites agreement or further discussion.
"I couldn't help but notice you're [sketching/writing/playing an instrument]. That's really cool!"
Observing and commenting on a specific activity they're engaged in shows attentiveness and provides a direct topic for discussion.
"Excuse me, do you have the time?"
A classic, simple request for information. While often brief, it can be extended by a follow-up comment about plans or the day.
"(React to something unusual happening) Did you just see that [strange thing/funny moment]?"
Sharing a reaction to an unexpected or amusing event happening around you can create an instant shared experience and a basis for conversation.
"Is this [seat/table/area] taken?"
A polite, direct question about availability. If it's not taken, you can follow up with a brief thank you and potentially another comment.
"I love your [bag/shoes/jacket]! Where did you find it?"
A direct compliment on an item of clothing or an accessory is a simple, positive way to initiate contact and can lead to a discussion about style or shopping.
"You look like you've been here before. Any recommendations for [food/drinks/things to do]?"
Assuming a bit of local knowledge or experience and asking for advice is flattering and practical, making it easy for them to share.
"Seems like everyone's really [enjoying themselves/focused/busy] today."
Commenting on the general mood or activity in the environment is a low-pressure way to acknowledge shared presence and potentially spark a conversation.
"Excuse me, I think you dropped [something small like a receipt/ticket]."
A direct, helpful intervention. This is a very low-risk way to engage and can lead to a brief "thank you" and potentially more if they are open.