How to Talk with People
#2 Conversation Options
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"It looks like you're really [focused/enjoying that]. What brings you here today?"
An observation about their demeanor, coupled with an open-ended question about their presence.
"That's an interesting [book/project/task] you're working on. What's it about?"
A direct, low-risk question about something they are actively engaged with, showing genuine curiosity.
"This [presentation/lecture/performance] is really [engaging/thought-provoking]. What are your thoughts on it?"
A question about a shared experience, inviting an opinion and deeper discussion.
"I'm trying to figure out [how to get to X/where the Y is]. Do you happen to know?"
A direct request for information that implies they are knowledgeable and helpful.
"This [place/event] is really [lively/quiet/interesting] today, isn't it? Have you been here before?"
An observation about the shared environment, opening the door for a common ground discussion.
"That's a beautiful [drawing/sculpture/photo]. Are you the artist?"
A specific compliment about a creation, inviting a discussion about their passion or skill.
"Excuse me, do you know if [this place has Wi-Fi/the next train is delayed/they serve coffee here]?"
A simple, practical question that requires a direct answer and can lead to further interaction.
"I really like your [bag/coat/accessory]. Where did you find it?"
A sincere compliment on something they chose, inviting them to share a positive experience.
"I'm looking for a good [book/podcast/restaurant] recommendation. Have you discovered anything great lately?"
An open-ended request for their personal recommendations, showing you value their opinion.
"Wow, this [weather/traffic/line] is something else today! Are you heading [to work/home/somewhere fun]?"
A relatable observation about a shared external circumstance, prompting a personal (but not too personal) follow-up.
"This [coffee/food/music] is really good. Have you tried [the other one/something else here]?"
A positive comment about something in the environment, inviting a recommendation or shared opinion.
"I couldn't help but notice your [T-shirt/hat/keychain]. Are you a fan of [that band/team/show] too?"
A specific observation about an item they are displaying, indicating a potential shared interest.