How to Talk to Men at University

A practical question about university facilities provides a clear reason to approach and is easily answerable, giving you a chance to thank him and potentially continue the chat.

If you're in a lecture or a presentation, this is a relevant and practical way to engage him. It implies you value his understanding and gives him a chance to show his knowledge.

This is a slightly more direct compliment that suggests he's knowledgeable or a regular, which can be flattering. It opens the door to him talking about his routines or studies.

This is a classic asking for directions opener, which is always effective. It's a clear reason to approach and immediately creates a sense of shared vulnerability or a need for help, making him feel helpful.

If you're both in a queue, this common experience is an easy topic. It can lead to lighthearted complaints or observations about university life.

Commenting on a shared external factor like the weather is a safe and universal icebreaker. It's easy to agree with and can lead to observations about campus life.

A specific compliment on an item he uses daily can lead to a discussion about where he got it, his style, or even his hobbies if the item has a particular theme.

Complimenting something specific he's wearing or has with him shows you've noticed him and allows him to talk about something he's interested in. The follow-up question makes it an open-ended conversation.

This is a more specific observation about shared study habits. It can be a little more forward, implying a shared routine, but can lead to a deeper conversation about study habits or aspirations.

If you're in a common area like a library, cafeteria, or study lounge, this is a simple, polite way to acknowledge his presence and open the door for a quick exchange about the crowded environment.

If you're in the same class or a study area, this shared struggle is a great icebreaker. It immediately creates common ground and invites a relatable conversation about academics.

This uses a shared past event to initiate a conversation. It shows you've noticed him and have a specific common experience to discuss. Only use if you're certain he was there.

This is a direct request for a small favor. It creates an immediate interaction and, if he helps, allows for a clear thank you and potential follow-up questions.

If you both have a similar item from a campus eatery, it's a simple, low-risk observation that can lead to a quick chat about food or campus life.

This action-based opener creates a brief, natural interaction. It’s low-pressure, provides a reason for a quick exchange, and can be followed by a simple How's your day going? if he makes eye contact.

This shows genuine curiosity about what he's doing and gives him an opportunity to talk about his academic pursuits. It's a respectful and engaging way to start a conversation.

This is a bit more direct and flirty, complimenting his concentration. It invites him to share what he's passionate about. Use with caution and only if he seems approachable.

Similar to asking for directions, this is a clear request for help. It's a straightforward interaction that can be followed up with a thank you and a smile.

This uses a shared environment and a common university experience (a specific class or professor) to initiate a low-stakes, relevant conversation. It's easy for him to answer and allows for follow-up questions.

If you're walking in the same general direction, this can be a natural way to strike up a conversation, especially if the destination is a common campus spot.

Showing interest in his current read indicates you share a similar interest and can lead to a deeper conversation about books, authors, or even broader interests.

If you're both waiting for the same professor or in a similar situation, this creates an instant shared experience and provides a natural topic to discuss.

This is direct and specific, leveraging a shared class to spark a conversation. It's easy for him to respond with his opinion, leading to further discussion about the class or university life.

This is a more upbeat and slightly flirty opener. It's a compliment that also asks for a lighthearted tip, making it easy for him to respond with humor or a simple observation.