How to Talk to Girls

#1 More Conversation Starters

"I like your [drawing/doodle]. Are you into art?"

If you notice her creating something, it's a great way to show genuine interest in her hobbies and talents.

"You're really good at [playing that instrument/singing]! Have you been doing it for a long time?"

Complimenting a talent is a strong way to start a conversation, as it shows appreciation for her abilities.

"That's an awesome [band t-shirt/sports jersey]! Are you a big fan of [band/team]?"

Shows you might have a common interest. People love talking about their passions, and this gives her an open invitation to share hers.

"This [event/festival] is pretty cool, right? What's been your favorite part so far?"

If you're at a public event, commenting on it and asking for her opinion is a natural way to start a conversation based on shared experience.

"That's a sick pair of [sneakers/headphones]! What kind are they?"

Complimenting an item of hers and asking for details shows genuine interest and gives her a chance to explain something she likes.

"Hey, is your [dog/cat] usually this [energetic/sleepy]? (If she has a pet with her)"

If she has a pet, it's an immediate, easy conversation starter. Most people love talking about their animals.

"Wow, it's really [hot/cold] out today, isn't it? I wish I had brought a [jacket/fan]."

A classic observation about the weather. It's a low-risk, universal topic that can lead to further conversation.

"Looks like you're having fun with that [activity/game]. Mind if I watch for a bit?"

If she's engaged in an activity, asking to observe can show interest and might lead to her inviting you to join or explaining what she's doing.

"I love the [music/vibe] here. Have you been to this [place/event] before?"

If you're in a place with a distinct atmosphere, commenting on it can open up a discussion about shared experiences or preferences.

"Excuse me, do you know what time it is? (After she tells you) Thanks! I'm [your name], by the way."

Simple, polite, and provides a quick opening for a brief introduction if she seems receptive.

"Hey, that's a cool [backpack/phone case]. Where'd you get it?"

Complimenting an accessory is a gentle way to start. It's low-pressure and gives her an easy topic to talk about without feeling put on the spot.

"(Drop a pen or something small near her) Oh no! (Pick it up) Hey, I'm [your name]."

A classic, slightly clumsy but innocent way to initiate contact. It creates a small moment that you can follow up with an introduction.

"Hey, I'm trying to find [the nearest bus stop/a good place for ice cream]. Do you know where that is?"

A direct request for help. Even if she doesn't know, it creates a brief, natural interaction.

"Wow, you're really good at [basketball/volleyball]! Do you play a lot?"

Complimenting her skills is genuine and can open up a conversation about her interests and activities outside of school.

"My friends and I are trying to find a good [cafe/arcade] around here. Any recommendations?"

Asking for local recommendations can lead to her sharing her favorite spots and interests, potentially giving you ideas for things to do.

"I saw you [drawing/reading] earlier, that looked really cool. What kind of stuff do you like to [draw/read]?"

Referencing something you observed her doing shows you've noticed her, and asking a follow-up question encourages her to share.

"I'm trying to figure out [this game/app]. Have you ever played it before?"

Asking for help or advice is a good way to engage someone, especially if she's familiar with the topic.

"Excuse me, is this seat taken? (If she says no) Cool, thanks! What's the [book/game] you're working on?"

A polite and direct way to approach. Asking about what she's doing shows interest and gives her a specific and neutral subject to discuss.

"Are you excited for [the upcoming concert/holiday break]?"

Talking about a future event that many people are looking forward to can be an easy way to connect on shared anticipation.

"You've got really nice [eyes/smile]."

This is a more direct compliment. It's a bit riskier, but if delivered sincerely and with a friendly demeanor, it can be effective.

"This is a pretty cool [spot/cafe]. Have you been here before?"

Commenting on the shared environment and asking for her experience can lead to a broader conversation about the place.

"Man, I'm starving. Is there anywhere good to get [food/a snack] around here?"

Asking for a recommendation is low-stakes and practical. It can easily lead to a discussion about favorite local spots.

"Sorry, I think you dropped [this/your pen]. (Hand it to her)"

A simple, helpful gesture. It's polite and shows you're observant, which can open the door for a brief exchange.

"That's a really unique [necklace/ring]! Does it have a special meaning?"

Complimenting a personal item and asking about its significance shows genuine curiosity and can lead to a more personal and engaging conversation.

Overview

When you are young it can seem tough to start a casual conversation with people of the opposite gender, but just like anything, practice makes perfect. The most important thing is that one starts out on the journey. Once you are regularly speaking to girls, your social skills, confidence and experience will improve extremely quickly.

The first goal is to overcome anxiety: Girls are just like boys, but they often like and are interested in different things and topics. Try to know or guess what she likes and talk about that to avoid awkward moments. Try to make the conversation about her first and only secondarily about you and things that interest you.

Teasing her might be tempting, but she might take it personally. So try to act a bit more grown-up when talking to girls your own age. Do not expect your conversations to be perfect, as you will improve over time.

Top Tips

Here are some useful tips that may help you talk to girls as a boy:

• Make eye-contact and greet people. It makes talking easier and opens doors.

• Do try to resist teasing her. Try to act grown-up.

• If you lack courage, start small. Say hi.

• Wait for the right opportunity. Some situations will make it easy or even natural to talk.

• Make eye contact, smile and ask a simple question to start.

Common Problems

Here are some of the potential problems you could face as a boy looking to start conversations with the opposite gender:

• Forcing conversations is easier, but no one likes it. Make eye contact first to make sure she is interested in talking.

• Some girls may be shy and not used to talking to boys.

• Many boys do not quite understand the different interests and priorities that girls have and may need to adjust over time.

• Girls and women alike tend to be more quickly insulted than boys and men. It pays to make sure not to insult her in any way. Even if by accident.

How To Learn

Learning starts with theoretical knowledge. Our tool can give you some easy-to-remember ways to start and carry forward the conversation. However, in order to become a good driver you have to actually drive a car regularly.

Go out there and use the tool to start practicing talking to both boys, girls and adults alike. Each skill carries over to the others. The more you are communicating with people, the better you will get. However, you do need to be honest with yourself about how well you performed in order to improve properly.

Starting out can be extremely hard due to anxiety. If you are too anxious, then start by talking to boys. If you are too anxious for that, then talk to your parents. If you are too anxious for that then stat by talking to your pet. The most important thing is to progress over time. It does not matter where you started learning. It matters only where you end up.

Pros

• Social skills are extremely useful.
• You are able to do something not everyone can.
• An opportunity to learn new perspectives on the world.

Cons

• Some girls may be shy.
• Anxiety can be hard to overcome.
• You have to learn to be more selfless.

Example

1. Make eye contact with a girl that you would like to talk to and smile.

2. If she smiles back, simply say "HI". If she does not or avoids eye contact, it is best to leave her alone.

3. Ask a question related to the situation or something she might care about. Consult the tool if you need ideas.

4. Keep asking questions to keep the conversation going and track her signals. If she ever seems disinterested or uncomfortable, even if she says otherwise, end the conversation casually. It is better to back out than creating awkward moments.

5. End the conversation before it gets boring. End things while things are good to leave a good impression. You will be able to talk again later in most cases.

Conclusion

Overall, learning to talk to people early can make your life a lot easier in the future. And if you start learning early, you can improve extremely quickly. Overcoming anxiety, being more selfless and empathetic can be difficult for some boys, but as long as you keep training, you will eventually improve. Remember that girls are often interested in different topics than boys. Try to talk about the things she cares deeply about and she might open up more quickly. Most of all, do not be afraid to fail. No one can reach perfection without failing along the way.