How to Talk to Boys at School
#1 More Conversation Starters
"(Drop a pen or book nearby) Oh no! Could you possibly grab that for me? Thanks!"
This classic uses a small, immediate need to create an interaction. It's low-risk and allows for a quick thank you and potential follow-up if he seems open.
"Your [backpack/phone case/t-shirt] is really cool! Where did you get it?"
A genuine compliment on something he's wearing or carrying is a great icebreaker. It shows you've noticed something specific and opens the door for him to tell you more about it.
"(Walk by his locker) Oh, hey! I think we have [math/science] together, right?"
This uses the shared context of a class to initiate a conversation. It's low-pressure and allows for easy confirmation and potential follow-up about the class.
"I'm totally stuck on [specific problem/question]. Have you figured it out yet?"
Similar to the general homework question, this is more specific, showing you're engaged and genuinely seeking help, which can make him feel useful and open to talking.
"That's a really good [book/game/song] you're [reading/playing/listening to]! Have you seen/heard [related recommendation]?"
This shows you're paying attention to his interests and gives you a natural point of connection to discuss shared hobbies.
"Excuse me, do you know if [teacher's name] assigned any homework for tonight?"
A simple, school-related question is a safe and effective way to start. It focuses on a shared experience (schoolwork) and doesn't put pressure on him for a deeper conversation.
"(See him working on something) That looks really interesting. What are you working on?"
Showing curiosity about what he's doing, especially if it's a project or something he's focused on, can be a great way to get him talking about his interests.
"(If he's with friends) You guys look like you're having fun! What's so funny?"
Approaching a group can be more intimidating, but if they seem lighthearted, this can be a playful way to join in or at least get a brief interaction.
"I'm trying to figure out the best way to get to [local landmark/restaurant] after school. Do you know the area well?"
Asking for local advice positions him as knowledgeable and gives him an opportunity to share information, making him feel helpful.
"Ugh, this [assignment/test] is so confusing. Do you get it?"
Expressing a shared struggle with schoolwork can build rapport quickly. It's relatable and invites him to either offer help or commiserate, both leading to conversation.
"Do you know when the next [bell/lunch period] is?"
A simple, practical question about school logistics is a straightforward way to get a quick response and potentially lead into more conversation, especially if you add a Thanks! and a smile.
"Hey, you remind me of [character from a show/movie/celebrity]. Have you heard that before?"
This is a more direct, slightly flirty, and higher-risk opener. It requires a bit more confidence and a good read on whether he'll take it well.
"You're in [club/sport], right? I've been thinking about joining."
If you know he's involved in an extracurricular activity, asking about it is a great way to show interest and get information, which can lead to him talking about something he's passionate about.
"(If he's looking at his phone) Is that the new [game/app] everyone's talking about?"
Tapping into current trends or popular culture can be a good way to find common ground, especially if you're both interested in similar things.
"Excuse me, do you know where [room number/specific office] is? (Even if you know)"
This is a classic asking for directions opener. It's low-risk and gives him a chance to be helpful. You can then thank him and potentially ask a follow-up question.
"Sorry, I think you dropped this. (Hand him something he didn't drop, or something you "found")"
This is a bit riskier as it's based on a small deception, but it creates an immediate interaction. Be prepared to quickly transition if he says it's not his.
"Did you hear about [recent school news/event]?"
Bringing up a relevant piece of school news or a recent event can spark conversation, as it's something you both likely have some awareness of.
"(Walking near him in the hallway) Ugh, these hallways are always so crowded, aren't they?"
Commenting on a shared, relatable annoyance can be a lighthearted way to start a conversation, especially if you both seem to be experiencing the same thing.
"Hey, I saw you at the [basketball game/school play] last night! What did you think?"
If you know you were both at a recent school event, bringing it up creates an immediate shared experience to talk about.
"Are you always this [focused/quiet/energetic]?"
This is a very direct and somewhat personal observation. It's higher risk and can be flirty depending on your tone, but it immediately puts the ball in his court to respond to your perception of him.
"Hey, is this [seat/table] taken? All the others are full."
This is a very common and low-stakes way to approach someone, especially in a crowded setting like the library or cafeteria. It creates a natural reason to be in his proximity.
"Wow, you're really good at [drawing/playing the guitar/video game]! Have you been doing that for a while?"
A sincere compliment on a skill you observe him demonstrating can be very effective. It acknowledges his talent and invites him to share more about his passion.
"Hey, I don't think I've seen you in this [class/hallway] before. Are you new here?"
This opener uses the fact that you might not have seen him around, making it a low-risk, natural way to initiate contact. It works especially well if he genuinely is new or you're in an area you don't frequent.
"This [weather/day of the week] is really [good/bad], isn't it?"
A simple comment about the immediate environment or current situation can be a neutral and easy way to start. It's not highly engaging but can open the door.