How to Talk to Girls at Weddings
#1 More Conversation Starters
"Are you having a good time tonight? You look like you're really enjoying yourself!"
A direct and positive observation about her enjoyment. It's a low-risk way to engage and can open the door for her to share what she's enjoying.
"I feel like I recognize you from somewhere. Have we met before, perhaps at another [wedding/event/place]? (Even if you haven't)"
A slightly bolder, flirty approach that implies you find her memorable. It puts the ball in her court to either confirm or deny.
"I was just admiring the [lighting/ambiance] in here. It really sets a [romantic/festive] mood, doesn't it?"
Commenting on the overall atmosphere. This shows you're observant and appreciate the effort, inviting her to share her feelings.
"(At the bar, as she orders) That sounds like a great choice! What did you get?"
A simple, non-intrusive way to acknowledge her presence and express mild interest in her choices.
"(Noticing her looking at the guest book/seating chart) Trying to figure out where everyone is, too? This seating chart is a [puzzle/masterpiece]!"
A playful observation about a common wedding element. This can create an immediate, relatable connection.
"This venue is amazing! Have you been here before for another event, or is this your first time?"
A compliment about the venue, followed by a question about her familiarity. This can lead to discussions about other events or places.
"I'm always a little nervous about catching the bouquet/garter. Are you hoping to catch either tonight?"
A playful, slightly flirty question about a traditional wedding activity. It shows you're engaged with the event and can lead to a lighthearted discussion.
"(Smiling as someone does something funny) Did you just see that? That was [hilarious/amazing]!"
Reacting to a shared, amusing moment. This creates an instant, lighthearted bond and gives you something enjoyable to talk about.
"That was a really sweet ceremony. How do you know the [bride/groom]?"
Directly referencing the recent ceremony and asking about her connection to the couple. This is a natural and expected question at a wedding.
"(Walking past a photo booth) Are you planning on hitting the photo booth later? They always have the best [props/backdrops]!"
A lighthearted suggestion about a fun wedding activity. It's an easy "yes" or "no" question that can lead to talking about fun experiences.
"This is such a beautiful wedding, isn't it? What's your favorite part so far – the [music], the [food], or the [decorations]?"
Using the overall positive atmosphere of the wedding as an opening. It's safe and invites her to share her experience.
"(If she's holding a small child) Your [son/daughter/niece/nephew] is adorable! Are they enjoying the wedding?"
A compliment about a child. This is often well-received by parents or relatives and can lead to a conversation about family.
"I'm surprised by how many people are out on the dance floor already! Are you much of a [dancer/dance party person]?"
Referencing the energy of the event and asking about her participation. This is a fun way to gauge her comfort and interests.
"I love this [song/band]! Have you heard them play before, or is this your first time experiencing them?"
Leveraging the shared experience of the music. It's a low-pressure way to find common ground and discuss tastes.
"Wow, these [flowers/centerpieces] are stunning! Do you have a favorite [flower/color combination]?"
A genuine compliment about the decor. This can open a conversation about aesthetics, taste, and personal preferences.
"(Holding a drink) This [drink] is fantastic! Have you tried it, or do you have another favorite from the bar?"
A light and social comment about the refreshments. This can easily lead to a chat about drinks, food, or general enjoyment.
"I'm trying to decide what to try from the [buffet/dessert table] next. Anything you'd highly recommend?"
A low-pressure way to ask for her opinion and show you value her input. It naturally leads to discussion about the food.
"It's so great to see [the couple] so happy. What's your favorite memory of them as a couple?"
This shows genuine interest in the couple and their relationship, encouraging her to share personal stories and emotions.
"Excuse me, I couldn't help but notice your [necklace/watch/scarf]. It's absolutely [beautiful/unique]!"
A genuine compliment about a specific accessory. This shows you're observant and have good taste. Be sincere.
"Excuse me, I'm looking for the [restrooms/coat check]. Do you happen to know which way it is? (Even if you know)"
A classic, low-stakes way to initiate contact by asking for help. It gives her a simple way to respond and can be followed up.
"I haven't been to a wedding quite like this one before. What's your favorite part about [weddings in general/this specific wedding]?"
Invites her to share her perspective and experiences. This can provide insights into her personality and interests.
"It's great to see everyone dressed up tonight. I love your [dress/outfit]! The [color/style] is fantastic."
A specific, genuine compliment on her attire. Keep it tasteful and avoid being overly direct. This can make her feel seen.
"I'm [Groom's Name]'s [friend/cousin/etc.]. How do you know [Bride's Name/Groom's Name]?"
Clearly stating your connection to the wedding. This helps establish trust and provides a natural segue into how she knows the couple.
"This wedding band is incredible! Are you into live music, or do you prefer a DJ at events like this?"
A conversation about the music or entertainment. This can reveal her personal preferences and lead to broader discussions about hobbies.