How to Talk to Women at Cafés
#2 Conversation Options
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"That's a really [cool/pretty] [scarf/earrings/bag]. Where did you find it?"
Compliment on an accessory, inviting a story.
"Wow, it's [busy/quiet] in here today. Is it always like this at this time?"
Situational observation, asking about the café's typical flow.
"That's a classic [author/artist] you've got there. Have you read anything else by them?"
Question about her reading material, inviting a discussion on shared literary interests.
"Excuse me, I couldn't help but notice your [art supplies/sketchbook]. Do you [draw/paint] often?"
Specific observation about a hobby, inviting shared interest.
"I love the vibe in here. Do you come to this [café/coffee shop] often?"
Observation about the atmosphere, asking about her routine.
"That looks like a really interesting [book/laptop sticker/notebook]. What are you [reading/working on]?"
General curiosity about her current activity.
"I just moved to the area, and I'm trying to find the best [coffee/tea/bakery]. Any local gems I should know about?"
Positions you as new and seeking local recommendations.
"This [coffee/tea/pastry] is amazing! Have you tried the [specific item] here before?"
Positive comment about the shared environment, inviting a shared experience.
"I'm trying to decide what to get. Do you have any recommendations?"
Asking for advice, putting her in a helpful position.
"I'm looking for a new [coffee shop/study spot]. What do you like about this one?"
Seeking information, creating a reason to chat.
"Are you getting any work done in this lovely [chaos/calm]?"
Lighthearted question about her productivity in the environment.
"That smells delicious! What kind of [drink/food item] is that?"
Sensory-based question about her order.