How to Talk to People at Networking Events
#1 More Conversation Starters
"Excuse me, do you know where [the restrooms/the coat check/the registration desk] is?"
A practical and low-stakes question. Even if they don't know, it opens the door for further conversation, and if they do, it provides a brief, positive interaction.
"I'm trying to remember where I saw [a specific person/company]. Do you happen to know if they're here?"
Asking for assistance with a specific query can be an effective way to start a conversation, even if they don't have the answer.
"This room is getting pretty [warm/crowded], isn't it? (Smile)"
A simple, relatable observation about the environment that can create a shared moment and open the door for a brief, lighthearted exchange.
"This is a great turnout, isn't it? Have you been to this event before?"
Comment on the general atmosphere. This is a low-pressure way to start, as it's a simple observation that can lead to a discussion about past events, mutual connections, or the event's purpose.
"I'm [Your Name], it's a pleasure to meet you. What brought you to this event today?"
A classic and effective opener. It's open-ended, allowing the other person to share as much or as little as they're comfortable with, and immediately gives you insight into their interests.
"It looks like you're enjoying the event. What's been the most valuable part for you so far?"
A positive and open-ended question that allows the other person to reflect and share their perspective, potentially leading to shared insights.
"I heard a really interesting statistic during the last presentation: [mention statistic]. What are your thoughts on that?"
Engage with specific content from the event. This demonstrates your attentiveness and invites a deeper, more analytical discussion.
"That's a really interesting [pin/badge/accessory] you have on. What's the story behind it?"
Complimenting a unique item they're wearing can be a great personal touch. It shows you're observant and gives them a chance to share something personal, potentially leading to a more engaging conversation.
"I'm just grabbing a [drink/snack]. Would you like anything while I'm here?"
A helpful and considerate gesture. It's a non-intrusive way to initiate contact and can lead to a brief shared moment and a subsequent conversation.
"Is this your first time at an event like this?"
A simple question that can lead to a discussion about their experience with networking, their industry, or their background.
"I'm new to [this industry/city]. Do you have any recommendations for [networking groups/places to eat/things to see]?"
Asking for advice or recommendations is a great way to engage people, as it appeals to their willingness to help and share their knowledge.
"That was a really interesting point [Speaker's Name] made about [topic]. What did you think?"
Leverage the content of the event itself. This shows you're engaged and gives the other person an easy entry point to share their opinion, sparking a natural discussion.
"Oh, excuse me! (Drop a pen or a small item near them) Thanks so much! (As they look, smile and then initiate a conversation with one of the above starters)."
This is a more indirect, action-based approach. The act of retrieving the item creates a brief interaction, which you can then use as a springboard for a more direct conversation starter.
"This line is moving slowly, isn't it? (Stand near someone who is also waiting for something, e.g., coffee, a speaker)"
Use a shared, minor inconvenience to create a moment of connection. It's relatable and often elicits a chuckle, making further conversation easier.
"Hi, I'm [Your Name]. Are you here with [a company/organization]?"
A direct but professional way to understand their background. This immediately frames the conversation around their professional identity, which is often relevant at networking events.
"Hi there, I don't think we've met. I'm [Your Name]."
This is a straightforward and polite way to introduce yourself, especially effective when approaching someone standing alone or looking approachable. It sets a clear, friendly tone and invites them to reciprocate.
"I saw your [company's presentation/booth]. I was really impressed by [specific aspect]. Can you tell me more about [it]?"
If you've had a chance to observe their company's presence, this shows genuine interest and gives them an opportunity to talk about their work.
"I couldn't help but notice your [company name/logo] on your badge. What do you do at [Company Name]?"
If their badge is visible, this is a clear and relevant way to initiate a professional conversation. It shows you're interested in their work.
"I'm hoping to [achieve a specific goal] from this event. What are you hoping to get out of it?"
Share your own objective to invite reciprocity. This can lead to a discussion about shared goals or different perspectives on the event's value.
"I'm trying to find [someone/a specific booth]. Have you seen them around?"
Even if they haven't, this can lead to a conversation about who you're looking for or why, potentially uncovering common connections.
"It's great to finally put a face to the name! Have we connected on [LinkedIn/social media] before?"
If you suspect you might know them or share a mutual connection online, this can be a good, slightly more direct approach.
"The [food/decor/music] here is really [nice/interesting], isn't it?"
A general positive observation about the event's amenities. It's an easy icebreaker that most people can agree on and can lead to broader discussions about preferences or past experiences.
"I like your [glasses/scarf/watch]. Is that [a specific brand/style]?"
A polite compliment on a personal item. Similar to complimenting a pin, it can lead to a more personal connection if they're open to it.
"Excuse me, I couldn't help but overhear you mention [topic]. I'm also really interested in that. (If you overhear a snippet of their conversation)"
Use a small, relevant piece of overheard information to politely insert yourself into a conversation. Be mindful not to interrupt rudely.