How to Talk to People at Church
#2 Conversation Options
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"I'm new to the area and looking for a [good coffee shop/restaurant]. Do you have any recommendations nearby?"
Transition to local interests, using the church as a common point for being in the area.
"I saw you [helping with the collection/greeting people at the door]. Do you volunteer often?"
Acknowledge their actions and ask about their involvement in church activities.
"This is a beautiful [church building/stained glass window/altar]. Have you been a member for a long time?"
Compliment a physical aspect of the church and inquire about their history with it.
"The [children's program/Sunday school] here seems really active. Do you have children who attend?"
Observe a specific aspect of the church and inquire about their connection to it.
"I'm trying to learn more about [a specific religious topic/a book of the Bible]. Have you studied [it/that]?"
Express intellectual curiosity and ask for their knowledge or perspective on a religious topic.
"I'm looking for a [Bible study group/volunteer opportunity/fellowship group] to join. Do you participate in any of them?"
Show an interest in getting more involved and ask for their recommendations or experiences.
"This is such a welcoming community. What do you like most about this church?"
Compliment the church environment and ask for their positive experiences.
"(As you walk past them looking at a bulletin board) Have you seen the announcement about the [upcoming event/volunteer opportunity]?"
React to something visible in the environment and ask if they're aware of it.
"I really enjoyed the [choir's performance/instrumental piece] today. Do you have a favorite hymn or song?"
Focus on the music, a common and often appreciated element of church services.
"It's nice to see such a diverse group of people here today. Do you think that's typical for this service?"
Comment on the church demographics and ask for their observation.
"When did you start attending this church? (I've seen you around before / This is my first time here, too!)"
General small talk. Low risk. Allows the other person to share their experience with the church community.
"The [sermon/music/reading] today was really impactful, wasn't it? What stood out to you?"
Discuss a shared experience from the service. Focus on the content to encourage deeper thought.