How to Talk to Men on Trains
#2 Conversation Options
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"I love that [band/author/podcast]! Have you been following them for long?"
If the initial connection was over a shared interest, this deepens the discussion, showing you're genuinely interested in the topic.
"I'm actually [new to Switzerland/just visiting this region]. What's something cool I shouldn't miss around here?"
This invites him to play the role of local expert and share his knowledge of the area (like Lucerne or nearby cities), often leading to suggestions and further conversation.
"It's really nice to see someone [reading a physical book/just relaxing/people-watching]. What's your take on [digital vs. physical books/the pace of life]?"
Observing his calm activity and then asking for his opinion shows you're observant and interested in his thoughts.
"I'm trying to figure out if I should [get off at the next stop for a quick coffee/switch to another line]. Do you have any recommendations for a quick stop?"
Continuing to ask for advice or recommendations keeps him engaged as a helpful resource and can lead to more discussion about local spots or travel tips.
"Your [pet carrier/child's toy] is so [cute/well-designed]! Are you traveling with [a pet/your family]?"
Animals and children are fantastic conversation starters. Most owners love to talk about them, and it's a very friendly approach.
"What brings you to [this part of the country/this city] today?"
A broad question that lets him share as much or as little as he wants about his current journey or purpose.
"So, besides [looking out the window/reading/listening to music], what else are you up to today?"
This directly asks about his plans beyond the immediate journey, showing interest and inviting him to share more.
"This [delay/crowd] is crazy! What's the wildest thing you've seen happen on a train journey?"
Turning a shared, potentially annoying, situation into a light-hearted topic can lead to funny stories and bonding.
"Do you travel this route often? I feel like I've seen you around, and you always seem to have interesting [books/outfits/accessories]."
A bit flirty, this acknowledges his presence and implies a positive observation about him, inviting him to confirm or expand.
"This [view/train ride/atmosphere] is quite [relaxing/lively], isn't it? What's your favorite part about traveling by train?"
A positive observation about the shared environment, followed by a question that encourages his opinion and personal connection to train travel.
"I noticed you were [struggling with that bag/trying to open that window]. Is everything okay, or do you need a hand?"
Offering help or showing concern for a visible situation makes you appear approachable and kind, creating a natural entry point.
"That's a really interesting [book/magazine/tablet]. What are you [reading/looking at]?"
A specific, non-intrusive observation followed by an open-ended question that shows genuine curiosity about his current engagement.