How to Talk to Men at Parties
#2 Conversation Options
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"What's the most surprising thing you've seen/heard tonight?"
A playful and intriguing question that encourages a unique answer and can lead to an amusing anecdote.
"I'm starving! Have you tried the mini quiches yet? They're surprisingly good."
Relatable and introduces a shared experience (food at the party). It's a casual way to start a conversation and potentially bond over the catering.
"This party is great, isn't it? How do you know the host?"
A classic, polite, and effective opener that establishes a common ground (the party) and provides an easy conversational thread.
"Excuse me, do you know if there's a restroom nearby? (You already know where it is, or can find out quickly)."
A simple, practical question that gives you a reason to approach and allows for a follow-up "Thanks!" and then another opener.
"Wow, this place is packed/lively tonight! Are you enjoying yourself?"
Comments on the immediate environment. It's an open-ended question that allows him to elaborate on his experience at the party.
"That's an interesting accent! Where are you from?"
A direct compliment/observation that shows genuine curiosity. Most people are happy to talk about their background.
"That's a great song they're playing! Do you know who sings it?"
This is a low-risk, universally applicable opener. It leverages the immediate environment and invites shared enjoyment, making it easy for him to respond.
"I'm trying to figure out if this drink has lime in it. What do you think?"
A light, playful question about something in his hand or nearby. It's a subtle way to engage and invite a shared "problem-solving" moment.
"This artwork on the wall is really interesting. What do you make of it?"
Focuses on a shared visual in the environment. It invites an opinion and can lead to a discussion about art, culture, or personal tastes.
"I'm always looking for new music recommendations. What's something great you've been listening to lately?"
A great way to find common interests and get a recommendation. It shows you're open to new things and value his opinion.
"I love your [shirt/watch/shoes]! Where did you find it/them?"
A genuine compliment about something he's wearing is often well-received and shows you noticed a detail about him. It can lead to discussions about his style, hobbies, or where he shops.
"I heard a really funny story about the host earlier. Do you have any good embarrassing stories about them?"
This can lead to a fun, lighthearted exchange, but make sure the "embarrassing" story is truly light and not genuinely mortifying. It relies on a shared connection to the host.