How to Talk to Men at the Club
#2 Conversation Options
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"Can you believe how [crowded/empty] it is tonight? Have you been here before?"
Comment on the club's atmosphere. It's a shared experience and invites him to share his familiarity with the venue.
"I'm getting another [drink], can I get you anything?"
A generous and direct offer. It's a clear signal of interest and creates an immediate shared activity.
"Excuse me, do you know where the [restrooms/coat check] is?"
A practical question that can lead to further conversation if he's helpful and open.
"I love your [shirt/watch/shoes]! Where did you get it?"
A genuine compliment on his style is a great icebreaker. It shows attention to detail and opens a natural line of questioning about his taste or where he shops.
"Wow, you have some great [dance moves/energy]!"
A direct and appreciative compliment, especially effective if he's dancing. It's flirty without being overly aggressive.
"I'm new to this club, any recommendations for [drinks/places to dance]?"
Asking for advice or recommendations is a classic way to get someone talking and involved.
"This music is [awesome/terrible], what do you think?"
A low-risk opener that immediately involves him in the present environment. It's a quick way to gauge his personality and if he's open to conversation.
"This [drink/cocktail] is amazing, have you tried it? (holding up your drink)"
A simple, common ground topic. If he hasn't, you can offer to share a sip or suggest he try it, leading to more interaction.
"I saw you [across the room/at the bar] and just had to come say hi. Your [eyes/smile] caught my attention."
Bold and highly complimentary. This is for when you're feeling confident and want to make your interest clear.
"My feet are killing me! Are you a pro at standing in lines, or did you just get here?"
Relatable humor. It's self-deprecating and acknowledges a common club experience, making you approachable.
"You look like you're having a [great/fun] time! What brings you out tonight?"
Positive observation followed by an open-ended question. It's friendly and invites him to share.
"I'm trying to figure out what song this is, it's [stuck in my head/so good]! Do you know it?"
Leverage the music. It's a fun way to engage, especially if he's into music, and can lead to talking about genres or artists.