How to Talk to Guys at Church
#2 Conversation Options
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"I really enjoyed the [music/hymn/children's choir] today. Do you have a favorite part of the service?"
Shifting from a general observation to a more personal question about his preferences within the church service.
"That was a really [thought-provoking/interesting] point the pastor made about [topic]. What are your thoughts on that?"
Continuing a conversation based on the sermon's content. This is a natural, low-risk way to engage in deeper discussion within the church setting.
"I'm trying to find some good resources on [a specific spiritual topic/Christian living]. Do you have any recommendations?"
Asking for advice or recommendations positions him as knowledgeable and gives him an opportunity to share.
"It's great to see so many [families/young people/older members] here today. What do you appreciate most about this church community?"
A general, positive comment about the congregation invites him to share his perspective on the church's strengths.
"Do you know if the church has a [men's group/bible study group] for [a specific age range/interest]?"
Asking about specific groups can indicate your interest in the church's offerings and potentially align with his interests.
"You mentioned you're [new to the church/been here a long time]. What made you choose this church/What do you like most about it?"
Following up on initial information shared to encourage him to elaborate on his connection to the church.
"I noticed you were [reading a specific Bible translation/taking notes]. Are you studying something particular right now?"
A specific observation shows attentiveness and opens a door to discuss his spiritual interests or learning.
"I heard about [a recent mission trip/charity drive] the church supported. Were you involved in that?"
Showing awareness of church activities and asking about his participation can lead to discussions about shared values.
"I love the architecture of this church. Do you know when it was built, or any interesting stories about it?"
Shifting the conversation to the church building itself, inviting him to share historical or architectural knowledge.
"I'm [looking for a new volunteer opportunity/considering joining a small group]. Are you involved in any ministries here?"
Showing interest in the church community and asking about his involvement provides an easy segue into shared activities.
"This [coffee/fellowship meal] is wonderful. Do you often stay for the fellowship time after service?"
A simple question about a shared experience, indicating a desire to connect in the social setting of the church.
"What do you think about the upcoming [church event/community outreach program]? Are you planning to go?"
Bringing up a future church event provides a concrete topic and allows you to gauge his involvement and interest.