How to talk to Women at the Gym as a Man and what to Say

Are you interested in learning how to talk to women at the gym? Our tool and guide provide you with the best things to say when starting a conversation and the best questions to ask to keep it going on top of a complete guide.

"You seem very light. What are you like 110 pounds?"

Very risky, but impressive if you can pull it off. Aim low. That way it is more likely to be a compliment. With experience you will be able to tell with an error 4-6 pounds.

"What gym did you go to before you started coming here?"

People tend so switch gyms once in a while. Talks about the other gyms you guys visited.

"Pretty early to be at the gym. Are you a student too?"

Use your observations to make educated guesses and talk about it. General small talk.

"Do you also live around here? I think I have seen you around."

Talk about where she lives imply where you live. Keep is vague for now to stay safe.

"What is your workout program? Do you only train legs?"

General gym talk. Low risk. And yes, most women only train legs.

"You seem to know what you are doing. Are you a personal trainer?"

Sneaky compliment. See how she reacts. Find out why she learned to train correctly.

"What do you do for work? Are you a nurse?"

Talk about her job. Make and educated guess if you are experienced enough.

"I see you around a lot. Are you as addicted to the gym as I am?"

Point out that you are both at the gym a lot. See why she loves the gym and talk about that.

"I like your gym clothes. What brand is it?"

Talking about gym clothes. Compliment her gear choice and see how she reacts.

"I am doing bench press. Could you make sure I don’t hurt myself?"

Risky. But some women respond well to working together.

"Whats your diet? Or do you do a lot of cardio?"

Subtle compliment. You think she controls her weight well and want to know her secret.

"What is the best time to come to this gym? Evenings seem pretty crowded."

Talk about the best time to come to the gym. Use the fact that the gym is pretty crowded right now.

Overview

The gym is an excellent location for meeting women and making friends in general. You can either talk to a specific group of people by going at the same time or be presented with new people by changing the time you visit the gym.

Since most people go to the gym regularly, you have little or no stress, allowing you to take steps when you are ready and at your own pace.

However, some people and especially some women are simply there to train and are not willing to talk to people and may get annoyed if you try to force interactions. So it pays to simply be friendly, make eye contact, greet people you have seen regularly before and not try to force people into talking.

Eye contact is also key, as many people listen to music during workouts and may not hear you. Clear nonverbal communication is important in those cases.

Top Tips

Here are some useful tips that may help you talk to girls at the gym as a man:

• Make eye-contact and greet people in general.

• Do not talk to women only. People may judge you.

• If you lack courage, start by talking to guys and build your confidence.

• Wait for the right situation. You will generally see people again.

• Make eye contact, smile and raise your head to signal that you want to talk if they are listening to music.

Common Problems

Here are some of the potential problems you may encounter when talking to people and especially women at a fitness facility:

• Some women may complain about you if you try to force conversations.

• People may respond with envy if they see you doing what they would like to be able to do.

• If you talk to too many women you will be perceived as a sleazy person.

• Many people at the gym are not looking for any social interactions. Stay away.

• People listening to music may not hear what you say at first.

How to Learn

As with learning anything it pays to know the theory. Our tool can give you some great ideas for things to say to start talking to people at the gym and how to keep the conversation going.

However, practice is the most important factor: Just like driving a car, knowing how everything works is vital, but without ever doing it, you will never be able to do it in the real world. - Practice is extremely important in building up courage and social skills.

I always recommend starting small. Talking to guys at first before talking to women. Using low-risk opening lines to start a conversation and waiting for opportune moments.

However, if you never start talking to people, you will never master it. So if you do not have the courage yet to talk to anyone at all, you need to change things about yourself to increase your confidence.

Pros

• You see people regularly.

• Many people in a confined space.

• Many ‘excuses’ to start talking.

• Overall an easy place to start talking to people.

Cons

• Some people do not want to talk at all here.

• Rumors and complaints.

• Training takes a long time if you talk a lot.