How to talk to Women at the Gym as a Man and what to Say

Are you interested in learning how to talk to women at the gym? Our tool and guide provide you with the best things to say when starting a conversation and the best questions to ask to keep it going on top of a complete guide.

"Wow the gym is crowded today. Is it always like this at this time?"

Basic small talk specific to the situation in the gym. Talk about something currently going on at the gym.

"Do you count calories or do you just have good genetics? (compliment)"

A kind of flirty compliment. See how she reacts. Do not overdo it with the compliments.

"You are quite strong. Do you do any professional sports?"

Exceptionally strong women often compete in sports outside of the gym. Talk about it.

"How do you like this gym? (I love how centrally it is located.)"

General small talk. Not risky at all. See what she talks about and what is important to her.

"Interesting exercise. I never tried it. It trains your legs, right?"

General small talk for gym bros and sisters. See how she reacts to gym topics and continue.

"How long have you been going to the gym?"

General gym small talk. Low risk. See what the talks about and go with it.

"You look like you do other sports. What are you? A volleyball girl?"

Make an educated guess as to what other sports she does. Kind of risky. Not all guesses may be flattering.

"Do you work here? Or do you just train a lot?"

Talk about the fact that she is at the gym a lot. Soft compliment. Slightly risky.

"You look fit. You must come here 5 times a week at least, right?"

Slightly flirty small talk. See how she reacts. Leave out the first part to make it less flirty.

"When did you start working out here? (I see you often. I see you for the first time)"

General small talk. No Risk. Let her talk to find out what is important to her.

"I like your exercise form. Who taught you?"

General gym small talk. Low risk. See what the talks about and go with it.

"How can you train this hard? Did you have a lot of caffeine today?"

Soft compliment. Make some small talk and see how actively she responds.

Overview

The gym is an excellent location for meeting women and making friends in general. You can either talk to a specific group of people by going at the same time or be presented with new people by changing the time you visit the gym.

Since most people go to the gym regularly, you have little or no stress, allowing you to take steps when you are ready and at your own pace.

However, some people and especially some women are simply there to train and are not willing to talk to people and may get annoyed if you try to force interactions. So it pays to simply be friendly, make eye contact, greet people you have seen regularly before and not try to force people into talking.

Eye contact is also key, as many people listen to music during workouts and may not hear you. Clear nonverbal communication is important in those cases.

Top Tips

Here are some useful tips that may help you talk to girls at the gym as a man:

• Make eye-contact and greet people in general.

• Do not talk to women only. People may judge you.

• If you lack courage, start by talking to guys and build your confidence.

• Wait for the right situation. You will generally see people again.

• Make eye contact, smile and raise your head to signal that you want to talk if they are listening to music.

Common Problems

Here are some of the potential problems you may encounter when talking to people and especially women at a fitness facility:

• Some women may complain about you if you try to force conversations.

• People may respond with envy if they see you doing what they would like to be able to do.

• If you talk to too many women you will be perceived as a sleazy person.

• Many people at the gym are not looking for any social interactions. Stay away.

• People listening to music may not hear what you say at first.

How to Learn

As with learning anything it pays to know the theory. Our tool can give you some great ideas for things to say to start talking to people at the gym and how to keep the conversation going.

However, practice is the most important factor: Just like driving a car, knowing how everything works is vital, but without ever doing it, you will never be able to do it in the real world. - Practice is extremely important in building up courage and social skills.

I always recommend starting small. Talking to guys at first before talking to women. Using low-risk opening lines to start a conversation and waiting for opportune moments.

However, if you never start talking to people, you will never master it. So if you do not have the courage yet to talk to anyone at all, you need to change things about yourself to increase your confidence.

Pros

• You see people regularly.

• Many people in a confined space.

• Many ‘excuses’ to start talking.

• Overall an easy place to start talking to people.

Cons

• Some people do not want to talk at all here.

• Rumors and complaints.

• Training takes a long time if you talk a lot.